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Question : Is it a good idea to move out at 16 given these circumstances?
Sorry for the copy and paste, but I really need help with this:

Ok. So here is my situation. I’m a 15 year old male, and I’ll be turning 16 in June. My parents moved here to Tomball (a small rural area in Houston), Texas a year ago in June 2009. Now my dad, just because he wants to, wants to go back to Miami, Fl, back to the house we own over there. He wants to leave Texas early June this year, once I finish school. My mom, my sister nor I want to move back. It’s just him, but according to the “pastor” of our church over there, he says we should move back and it was a mistake coming here. We are rented here and the rent is $ 1200 a month. Our house over there is rented for $ 2,000 a month, yet the mortgage is only about $ 1,300, which leaves plenty of money left over for paying property taxes and other expenses. So anyway, he says that we don’t have enough money to continue living here, but it’s mostly because he has turned into a lazy bum watching TV and doing absolutely nothing except watch TV and eat all day. All of this with the excuse of “we can’t make money because we plan to do a bankruptcy and if we make money, the bank will deny it”. We own a cleaning company, which provides services such as Carpet cleaning, upholstery and tile and grout cleaning, and about another million things we do. Hell, we have enough work to be making $ 300,000 a year (not exaggerating) My mom is fed up with him because he doesn’t let her go out and work either. So I was planning to move out once we got to Florida and I had earned money over the summer before school started again and drive directly back to Texas. I have talked it over with my aunt who lives not even a quarter mile away from our house here in Texas, and she and my uncle decided that I can move in with them and my cousin, since they have 3 spare rooms. Anyway, I have about $ 4,000 saved up from a pressure washing part time and count on another $ 2-3,000 from pressure washing during the summer. Here’s the thing, I don’t want to move from Texas to Florida. I have friends, my girlfriend (I’d be devastated, we’ve been going out for a year).and all of my professors absolutely love me (not kidding). I have a car secured which I bought on a bank repo auction for $ 2,000 (2003 Audi). I still have to pay that off. I’ll get my driver’s license once I turn 16. I’ve also talked it over with my mom and she’s not too happy about the idea but understands my motives and is willing to let me leave. I know my dad would have a FIT if I moved out at 16, but here what I say: tough. There’s nothing he can do to stop me….I think. It’s my car, and my gas money which I worked and payed for myself, so he can’t prevent me from leaving, am I right? The only actual expenses outside the regulars you’d expect such as a cell phone bill, groceries and gas money (keeping in mind that I won’t be paying for housing), is my gym membership which runs me about $ 90/month (I have a personal trainer), and my basketball coach (about $ 100/month) Once I have about $ 5,000 secured at least I plan to leave Florida and move back to Texas just in time for when the school year begins. One question I have is that my dad un-enrolled me from this school (he went stated that I won’t be going to it anymore, and they gave him all sorts of paperwork) and enrolled me in the school over in Florida so we don’t have to deal with any of that when we get there. If I were to continue going to this school I’d have to re-enroll, and show proof of residence and everything. Now, I don’t want to get an emancipation or anything, I’d just be living with relatives other than my parents and sister. It’s not like I’m being abused or endangered. My parents love me, and I understand that. I plan to visit them every once in a while, and I plan to move back once I graduate from high school (I’m a sophomore now), since I intend to go to the University of Miami, which my current girlfriend also plans to attend. I (think I) have the money to support myself for a good while, considering the fact that I have no housing costs. I also own my own pressure washing equipment, so I can work. I believe that I am mature and independent enough to go through with this decision. One of the questions I have is: Since I don’t have an emancipation or anything, and my legal parents are living in Florida, would I have any trouble enrolling back into my school with my Uncle or Aunt if they don’t have my custody, and I am only living with them, though no legal documents say so? Also, do you think it’s a good idea that I move? If not, why?

Ok, so one answerer began talking crap about me “throwing my life away” and my “bragging” at how much money I have and my car…..The only reason I mention the amount of money I have is so that people don’t begin yelling at me that I don’t have any means to support myself. Working part time I can make $ 3,000 a month, because I have done it before. I am a straigh
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Best answer:

Answer by Ashlyn
if your mom is willing to let you leave, and you have family who will let you move in and continue to let you live with them for as long as you need them, then i’m pretty sure theres nothing ur dad can do to stop you. go for it! and ur definitely not “throwing ur life away” you have family you can live with and you have a job so that you wont be just living in ur aunts house and not helping out at all.