anyone know where i can get free realtones for my verizon phone?

Verizon only allows approved third party content providers to send content to a limited number of phones. They are very stingy about that stuff, and if you find a third party provider that has Verizon compatable ringtones, they are going to be the same as the ones that are offered on the Verizon site. Just be careful you don’t get sucked into a monthly subscription.