What do you about wedding registries? Tacky or classy?

Question : What do you about wedding registries? Tacky or classy?
These days I have noticed almost everybody sends a little note with a registry on it along with their wedding invitations. Do you think this is rude? Is it tacky or classy?
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Answer by Dog Lover
I’m doing the same, I don’t feel that it is tacky.

edit:: I’m using a registry, not sending them with invites.

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#1 written by Blunt 1 year ago

It’s classless.

Registries are fine, putting registry information on the invitations is low-class.

Good luck

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#2 written by Slightly Ravenous 1 year ago

Tacky. There should be zero mention of gifts on a wedding invitation.

ETA: Glad to hear dog lover, if I could take back the thumbs down, I would.

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#3 written by lalala 1 year ago

It is rude and entitled.

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#4 written by Messykatt 1 year ago

Your title asks about registries, which I personally don’t think are tacky. They’re just tradition and they are also just guidelines.

Sending registry info with the invite is not only tacky, it’s a big etiquette no-no. They can go in shower invites, because the person throwing the shower isn’t asking for gifts for herself.

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#5 written by Deborah McCoy 1 year ago

Hi… All that’s asked of your guests is the “honour of (their) presence…” And that’s not spelled p-r-e-s-e-n-t-s. Yes, it’s tacky…

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#6 written by sportsfan4eva 1 year ago

Yeah, registries are fine but not on an invitation.

edit: I don’t think they are a problem or suggest that your friends can’t pick out what you like. They know what you like but they don’t talk to each other to coordinate because they don’t all know each other. Think about it; you want your sheets and comforters and stuff to go together. You don’t want to get blue towels from someone and green ones from someone else if you have a different idea of how you want your bathroom decorated. Registries are helpful because then you don’t end up with say 5 blenders and no drinking glasses.

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#7 written by iloveweddings 1 year ago

Registries are fine. Putting the little cards in with the invite is NOT fine.

The only time this information (registry) should be given out is at the bridal shower.

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#8 written by nova_queen_28 1 year ago

Having a registry – a normal registry for stuff at a store – is great. It helps your guests know what you like and what you need and helps to ensure 5 people don’t buy you the same exact toaster or blender.

Including registry info IN the wedding invitation is RUDE!
Somebody sending something like that to me might get an etiquette book as a gift instead of whatever is on the registry.

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#9 written by Perse 1 year ago

It’s definitely rude to send the registry information with the invitation.

As for the registry itself, I’m on the fence.I think it is tacky in any way to suggest you expect gifts, which is exactly what a registry does. Also, the way many people get carried away with it, very tacky. However, it’s a known fact most guests do want to buy the couple a gift, and it would be nice if there was some order to that process, which is where the registry is beneficial. Overall, I think the tackiness of making a wishlist trumps any convenience it has, bottom line: tacky.

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#10 written by Oot n Aboot 1 year ago

Wedding registries are fine (not something for me because of how small my family is and guest list would be).

Sending the info in with the invite on a separate piece of paper is fine in my mind. No use making guests try to track down you guys, the MOH or you mother in order to get it. They can read it themselves and do what they want with it.

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#11 written by JNS 1 year ago

Never, never send registry information in an invitation, even as a separate card. It’s extremely rude.

Traditionally, you inform the mothers (groom’s and bride’s) of the registry store, and the guests are expected to ask the mothers where you are registered. It’s also somewhat customary these days to have that sort of information on a wedding website (though I still think that’s questionable).

Either way, guests still have the option to give money or to purchase a gift for you that might not be on the registry (they are supposed to provide a gift receipt in case you don’t like it).

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#12 written by peoplebugme3 1 year ago

I would agree with Oot I don’t think that a registry is tacky at all, your guest want to get you something that you and your new husband want and will use. I am also INCLUDING a registry card in my invitation because I’ve seen people who don’t for their wedding and then your guests wonder. To me your guest expect registry information and as long as you have things in different price ranges on it they are fine. Then people can buy you what they feel comfortable buying. Just remember to send out those thank you cards!

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#13 written by melouofs 1 year ago

I know its supposed to be an inexcusable sin, but I like them and don’t give it a second thought. We didn’t do this for ours, but I see nothing wrong in it.

I’d rather get an avalanche of registry cards than a single “cute” poem asking for cash.

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#14 written by pathological 1 year ago

I find this to be very rude. It implies that your guests are not capable of choosing something you would like. If that is the case, they probably don’t know you well enough to be invited to your wedding. However, I do think that registries have their place if they are used properly, that is that the registry info is spread by word of mouth only. I have used a registry if I am having a hard time choosing a gift for a couple. I just don’t like being told (even indirectly) in the invitation that only certain gifts are welcome.

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#15 written by Lisa 1 year ago

Tacky and classless. Registry information is fine in bridal shower invites but should not be included in the invitations. If people want to know where you are registered, they will ask.

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#16 written by truefirstedition 1 year ago

I think registries themselves are fine – in fact, as someone who lives across the country from all my friends, I think they’re really convenient. I like being able to select a gift online from the registry and have it shipped directly to the couple, instead of trying to carry a set of wine glasses on to an airplane.

But I really hate when people include the registry info with their invitations. Even though I KNOW most people don’t mean it that way, it really comes across as “A gift is the price of admission to my party, so you’d better get me one.”

I know how to use the internet, or pick up a phone and call the couple, if I want to know where they’re registered. I just don’t think there should be any mention of gifts on the invitation whatsoever.

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#17 written by Rainbrain 1 year ago

I think it’s pretty standard that most couples HAVE a wedding registry. However, it’s bad etiquette for the couple to announce this in the wedding invitations.

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#18 written by melior quam vos 1 year ago

Tacky

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#19 written by Kelly 1 year ago

To send them with the wedding invitation, is absolutely tacky and tasteless. Its telling your guests that you are expecting or demanding a gift from them, and that is exceptionally rude.

Otherwise, it can go both ways for me.

If the couple already lives together, or its their second or third marriage, they are well established I find them tacky. Because then people are using the new marriage as an gift grab to upgrade items they already have.

However if its the first time marriage, they do not live together, they are just starting out and don’t have much I don’t mind them because they are things they need.

The intended purpose of a registry or shower is to “shower” the honoree with gifts of items they will need to establish their new home. Its not intended to upgrade to newer or better items, or for home improvements, or for baby gifts, or for honeymoon, or for vacation.

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#20 written by shimmeringcupcake 1 year ago

I previously worked for Bed Bath and Beyond and we encouraged people to use the registry cards.

I personally think that registrys are VERY useful and lets people know what you need and what color scemes ou are going with. It is completely up to the person if they want to buy off the registry but at least it gives people an idea of what you need. It also saves the bride and groom time if you buy off of it then they won’t spend time trying to take things back and will spare ppls feelings in regards to taking things back.

I think that there is nothing wrong with a seperate card in with the invite saying where you are registered. I personally think it is RUDE to show up to a wedding empty handed. The price of the gift doesn’t matter it is a thought that counts (if you can’t afford a gift, a card will do it shows that the guest at least cares).

I would never leave it up to the tradition of letting the mothers know where I am registered and taking it from there. Mothers don’t personally know everyone that is invited to your wedding (friends, co-workers) and guest won’t know you are registered if you don’t tell them.

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